Owning Your Ego: Turning the Mirror Inward

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, That’s just how I am”

—pause for a moment. What if I told you that *who you think you are* might actually be a character you picked up along the way? Maybe you learned her from an older sibling, a parent, a mentor—or even from the subtle lessons in your environment.

Our ego isn’t the villain; it’s a survival suit we designed to navigate life. We stitched it together from what we saw, heard, and believed would keep us safe, loved, or respected. But here’s the thing: if you never take the suit off, you might forget there’s a whole you underneath it.

For me, I realized a huge chunk of my ego came from mimicking my older sister. I mirrored her confidence, her way of speaking, her mannerisms—because at the time, that version of “me” felt safer and stronger than the one I was still discovering. That’s not wrong. That’s human.

But there comes a point in your Mastery where you have to ask:

* *Is this mine, or was it borrowed?*

* *Am I reacting from who I truly am, or from a script I learned years ago?*

* *Does my ego still serve me, or is it keeping me stuck?*

Owning your ego doesn’t mean killing it. It means naming it, understanding its origins, and deciding—consciously—when to let it lead and when to let your authentic self take the wheel.

This is the work of Mastery: not blaming the ego, but befriending it. When you can see it clearly, you stop being ruled by it. You step into your life with choice, not default programming.

Your ego is part of your story—but you are the author. You get to rewrite the role.

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**Mastery Message:**

Your ego can be a tool or a trap—it depends on whether you own it or it owns you. Begin by tracing its roots, noticing its patterns, and deciding where it still fits in your journey.

**To your Mastery,

Joelee.**

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