I’m a Samantha in a World of Sad Misters. Big.

 

Let’s get straight to it.

 How many of you, 40 and over, watch reruns of Sex and the City and see your own life staring back at you? Most days, I feel like my life is a movie, and that show is the script. 

Specifically, I'm Samantha—high standards, crap at relationships, and overtly hard to please. And I'm not apologizing for it.

After leaving a long-term relationship, my dating life went completely topsy-turvy. It turns out my standards were “too high,” and men would flee. Good. The only ones who ran were the ones who weren't worth my time, energy, or commitment in the first place.

Let’s be honest: men can be dirty dogs, and it took me getting to midlife to fully see it. 

Armed with new boundaries, crystal-clear standards, new goals, and a laundry list of non-negotiables, I stepped back onto the scene. My dating life became a scene from hell.

It took almost three years of dating multiple men (mostly online) to come to one conclusion: 

the men I met online were the absolute worst on the dating scene. I called them the rejects because they were all divorced. 

What in the hell am I supposed to do with someone else's used garbage? 

Not to mention how damaged and unhealed they were.

My non-negotiables are now set in stone. My boundaries are resolute. As a midlife woman with a clear vision and set goals, an unhealed man is a liability and would become my ruin.

He's just a clown that is not welcome in my castle.

Oh, they hated my guts for it. 

But the real winner was me, standing my ground for what I believe in. I choose to date differently than I did in my 20s and 30s.

 I sure as hell can’t be seen making those same mistakes again. 

My dating past was a learning curve. My 20s and 30s were my elementary years. I am now at the tertiary level, and here, I make better decisions, even in desperation.

At midlife, I am grown, fierce, independent, and relentless.

So when you hear me scream, know that it's my battle cry. I am punching holes, tearing up, and burning the script to the devil's plan.

 I am throwing the devil off its game. I am saying I will not bow, I will not beg, I will not surrender, I will not retreat. 

I am here to win. I am here to defeat. I am here to conquer.

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Now, you tell me: Which of the Sex and the City cast mates do you identify with?

To your Mastery, Joelee ❤️

Your Commander & Chief